Let’s be honest: we’ve all had days where we feel like this sheep. Just all around, kick you when you’re down, let’s go to bed not so this day can be over, rough days. It’s Saturday, so perhaps you’re finally finding rest from a rough night, a rough day, or a rough week. Or maybe, you’ve sat down at your computer to find a break away from your already rough morning (sometimes Saturdays can be the worst!) So, I hope this post can encourage you.
Rough Days That Aren’t Our Fault
Sometimes rough days aren’t our fault. Take, for example, Mrs. T-Rex here trying to make this bed. It’s not her fault she has those short arms! Sometimes, our disabilities, our families and our circumstances can cause us to have rough days. Maybe the bus you needed to get on wasn’t wheelchair accessible so you were late for your appointment, maybe you can’t run fast and weren’t picked for the soccer team, or maybe you were discriminated against for your gender or race. This can kind of rough day can often feel like the worst, because it was not your fault, and there is nothing you can do to make sure that this won’t happen again. I am so sorry, precious reader, for the deep hurt you are feeling right now. You have a right to feel hurt. Some important things to remember:
- It is important that you seek to quickly forgive and reconcile with the people or organizations that wronged you. Not forgiving can lead to bitterness, and bitterness just makes you miserable.
- Seek legal help if necessary. If you have been discriminated in a way that breaks the law (such as the American with Disabilities Act) seek out the right authorities. Forgiving an individual does not mean that they do not deserve consequences.
- Talk to the individual that wronged you. Perhaps there was a misunderstanding. Make sure that you only talk to the individual if it is emotionally and physically safe to do so.
Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Col. 3:13
Rough Days That Are Our Own Fault
As much as we hate to admit it, sometimes our rough days are our own fault: we say mean things, we make really bad decisions, we forget about important things. When we cause our own rough days, it is important to remember to do these steps:
- Be humble. Be willing to admit that we can be at fault for causing our problems. Recognize quickly when you are at fault.
- Immediately seek to apologize to those you have wronged (even if they do not know you have wronged them) and take steps to begin rebuilding trust. For example, if you stole $20, return that $20 and apologize.
- Ask God to forgive you. If you are a Christian, all of your sins have been forgiven, however, continuing to sin hurt your relationship with God. Also, although we can sin against each other, we ultimately are sinning against God. When David, the King of Israel, slept with a man’s wife and then killed him so he could marry her, remorseful he told God, “Against You and You only have I sinned” (Psalm 51:4). If you are not a Christian, you need to be made right with God, by asking Him to forgive you.
- Forgive yourself. This can often be the most difficult thing to do.
God’s forgiveness is without condition. He will forgiven all of our wrongdoings if we simply ask and turn away from our sins. Likewise, our forgiveness should be the same.
“I have swept away your sins like a cloud. I have scattered your offenses like the morning mist. Oh, return to me, for I have paid the price to set you free.” Isaiah 44:22
Remember How Much You Are Loved
Regardless of why you are having a rough day, remember, precious reader, how much you are loved, how much value you have. Anger is fleeting. Those who love you will forgive you. Although forgiveness is a process, and it can take months or years to have the relationship you had before. If others have wronged you, remember that there is no greater or a testament to God’s faith, and His work in your life, than to forgive someone that does not deserve your forgiveness, just as we do not deserve God’s forgiveness. Yet, He gives it abundantly. See each hardship as a reminder that Earth is not our home, and look forward to the day when pain and “rough days” are a faded, distant memory, when we are in the perfect place with God. Remember, that although God hates your sin, he will always delight in you, precious reader, His beloved creation.
“For the Lord your God is living among you. He is a mighty savior. He will take delight in you with gladness. With his love, he will calm all your fears. He will rejoice over you with joyful songs.” Zeph. 3:17